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Forgiveness and Fitness. What?


Did you know that anger, holding grudges and feelings of retribution are harmful to your health?  

A few months ago, I had the honor of interviewing Professor Kim Cameron from the University of Michigan a true expert on the topic of forgiveness and leadership. 

During the interview, Professor Cameron confirmed that anger and holding grudges are indeed harmful to our health and went on to connect the dots between forgiveness and leadership.  

As you will learn, forgiveness is not weak or cowardly!

Forgivenessisnotweak.jpgDuring this week's The Fitness Minute, I share the story of how I wasted hours of valuable gym time using the gym to further my negative feelings, anger and grudges towards some co-workers.  

Check out the recording below to find out how I was hurting myself and wasting valuable energy at the gym by allowing my anger and resentment to drive my actions and focus.  The time we spend at the gym is precious and we should not waste a moment of it on anything other than our goals!   Why let others rob us of the little time we have to work on what WE are can achieve?

While I am in favor of leveraging the gym to let out some steam, I could have helped my health and lead positive change by forgiving others.   

Easy to say but very hard to do...

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Professor Cameron makes a wonderful point about forgiveness being a process of problem solving and I could have lead the process of problem solving with my co-workers, instead of wasting gym time to harbor negative feelings of anger and resentment.  

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The interview concludes the 4 levels of personal maturity that map to our ability to forgive others.  This is based on the research Professor Cameron has conducted.

The levels are:

Level 1: I will forgive you only if I or someone else gets you back.  I can forgive you as long as you are punished.

Level 2: I will forgive you because it is expected of me.  I will forgive because those are the norms.

Level 3. I will forgive if you admit you did wrong and apologize.  Only then will I forgive you.
 
Level 4. My forgiveness is absent of conditions. I will forgive you because I feel compassion towards you. While I don’t like what you did, I can authentically forgive you, regardless of any circumstance.    

If you are like me, the process of forgiveness is one of the most challenging when it comes to the quality of my leadership.  At what level of personal maturity do you find yourself most often?


Until next time, I leave you with two questions to ponder:

Are you a good leader?  And how do you know?

Self-reflection can be painful but as they say, no pain no gain.  

Thanks for sharing everyone!

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Teachers as Leaders, Coaches & Lifelong Mentors with Lydia Dolch

Do you remember your 5th grade teachers?  


Would you say that any of your 5th grade teachers made a lifelong impression on your life?


Today’s guest is doing just that! 


Lydia Dolch, a teacher and consultant in Ithaca NY joined me to discuss a #FutureLeaders session we conducted with her 5th grade class earlier this year.  It's never too early to start the intentional journey of leadership development and working with Lydia and her class was a great example of this fact.   


During the session, we provided the students a shared vocabulary and tools that helped them understand how positive leadership can enable them to lead through many of the challenges they are already facing at school, in the playground, and at home. 



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As Lydia explained during the show, activities like the medicine wheel and the exploding seltzer bottle, helped the students learn leadership principles like conflict management, courage and forgiveness as they explored how to interact with others who see the world from a different perspective and have different strengths.  


On The Fitness Minute I focused on how we need to take a page from sports coaching and apply it to teachers coaching students on leadership development. We have all kinds of bullying issues in our schools and our workplace.  Research report after research report shows that bullying is a growing epidemic with horrible consequences around the world.


Well, guess what folks? We need leadership development to address these difficult issues! 


Without positive leadership, aggression and conflict will attract our younger set and start the process of developing the bad habits that plague the workplace today!


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We can start the process of leadership coaching IN the classroom. All this takes is an intentional approach and tools that teachers can use to teach leadership as part of their curriculum! 

Just like we coach our kids on the court, track or wrestling mat, we need to coach them on how to lead positive change and avoid the inferior behaviors that come so easily with aggression and unmanaged conflict.  


Like I say in many of my shows, easy to say, and very hard to do.  


During the session with Lydia's class, as we focused on differentiating abrasive behavior from bullying behavior, Lydia explained the difference with a wonderful SANDPAPER analogy.  


sandpaperwithLydia.jpgOne of the key takeaways from the #FutureLeaders session, is to help students understand that abrasive students are not necessarily bullies.  This is a key distinction as abrasive and bullying behaviors need to be managed differently. 

Of course, both of these behaviors can be minimized when students realize how they can lead away from unintentional abrasive tendencies and intentional bullying attacks. 

Working with teachers who care so deeply about the development of our children is instrumental in the effort of developing future leaders as early as possible.  

Until next time, I leave you with two questions to ponder:

Are you a good leader?  And how do you know?

Self-reflection can be painful but as they say, no pain no gain.  


Thanks for sharing everyone! 


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Parents Lead by Modeling the Way with Shannon Petralito


This week's show is all about how parents can lead by setting the example and modeling the way.  


Fitness expert and professional figure competitor Shannon Petralito, joined us to explore how leading by example and modeling the way for our children can help us instill upon them the values of accountability and self-respect.  


Shannon’s inspirational story is a perfect example of how we can show our children that they can be passionate in life, have a vision and go for their dreams! 

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This week I focused The Fitness Minute on the 5 Practices of Exemplary Leadership. Developed by Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, the 5 practices are a scientifically proven model of how to lead positive change with superior results.   

As I thought about Shannon's story of dedication and leading by example, I could not think of a better leadership model to highlight than the 5 Practices.  She exemplifies the 5 Practices each and every day.  


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During our interview, Shannon and I explored the challenges of modeling the way for our children with nutritional choices.  This means sacrifice, education and NOT following the crowd to a McDonalds. Instead we have to find healthier alternatives or prepare our own food.    

This is NOT easy, but leadership never is...

We also discussed how we can show our children that parents can accomplish amazing things when we have a vision and are passionate about accomplishing our goals. When we are inspired to follow our own goals we are teaching our children that we they can also be passionate about live and follow their own dreams. 

As Shannon expertly explains, it is never too late!

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Until next time, I leave you with two questions to ponder:

Are you a good leader?  And how do you know?

Self-reflection can be painful but as they say, no pain no gain.  

Thanks for sharing everyone!  


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Are You Sleepwalking Through Life?


There is a leadership crisis at the workplace.  Our current organizational structures are not working. 


If 80% of organizations disappeared, nobody would miss them! 


This weeks show is all about how being accountable to ourselves, having self-respect and trusting ourselves, can motivate us in life AND propel us to lead past the leadership crisis at work.  

And we connect all this to fitness with our guest, author and leadership expert, Rob Peters.

Rob and I are going to explore the connection between how "falling asleep" through our careers may be connected to our inability to stay active and and accountable to ourselves in our fitness and at home.  


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On the Fitness Minute, we focus on the concept of pre-commitments and how research indicates that our will power dwindles as the day goes on.  During the interview, Rob explains how pre-commitments can help us with our diets AND the quality of our leadership.  


Check out the interview below!


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In fitness, at home and at the workplace, we need to be accountable to ourselves and the goals we set.  We need to respect ourselves and others, whether we are at work, the gym or at home, or at the gym. 

If we hold ourselves accountable and respect ourselves first, it is easier to hold other accountable and respect others.  When we do this consistently we build trust with ourselves and others.  

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Until next time, I leave you with two questions to ponder:

Are you a good leader?  And how do you know?

Self-reflection can be painful but as they say, no pain no gain.  

Thanks for sharing everyone!  


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On Fitness, Leadership and Helping Others with Kat Cannella



"Leaders don't create followers, they create more leaders."  

Tom Peters



Today’s show is all about connecting the dots between fitness and leadership in the context of helping others.  Leaders are people who help create other leaders and our guest is a leader that helps her clients develop the courage to identify their goals and pursue them. 

As you will learn, she helps clients do this at at the gym and at the office!

BeachBody coach and leadership development professional, Kat Cannella, joined us to talk about the strong connections between being healthy, working out and developing her clients ability to achieve their professional goals.   

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During the show, Kat and I shared the perspective that maybe working out is not just for ourselves.  


As I talk to incredible leaders like Kat, Rita Catolino, and Tosca Reno, it is becoming obvious that our work in the gym can be a powerful catalyst for us to help others and inspire them to lead positive change.


Whether we help them with their workouts, their diets, or finding the confidence to pursue their dreams,  by being accountable to our goals and dreams, we can become the inspirations others need to pursue their own goals in life!


As you will hear in the show, it all starts with the reflection we see in the mirror everyday.   


This led me to share the example of an inspirational young man by the name of Shayne Miller, whom I had to honor of helping along his journey at the gym and in life. 


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During this week's The Fitness Minute, I shared a model called SMART Goals. 


SMART is an acronym we commonly use in professional settings to help us set goals that can be measured and ensure that we know what success is before we start any significant effort.   


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Just like SMART goals can help us define and measure success at work, they can also help us define success at the gym. 


Hope you enjoy the show and that it helps you find the inspiration to continue pursuing your fitness goals, not just for yourself, but for what you can do to help and inspire others. 


Thanks for sharing everyone!

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On Resilience, Fitness and Leadership with Tosca Reno


After losing a son, a spouse and a successful business, most people would give up on life, but not Tosca Reno.  Today’s show is all about using fitness and leadership to build our sense of self and overcome the most difficult challenges that life throws our way.  

Nutritional expert, motivational speaker and entrepreneur, Tosca Reno joins us to share her incredible story of resilience and leadership through some of the most difficult challenges anyone can ever experience.  

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Also this week, I share a 4 step process anyone can take to use failure as a way to succeed, in this week's The Fitness Minute. 

As you have heard many times, in order to succeed, we have to be willing to fail.  The concept of “Failing Forward” is a popular topic in leadership circles and this is one of the biggest similarities that I have found in leadership and fitness, because at the gym,  failure is intentional!  And today I want to share a 4 step process that anyone can use to use failure as a way to succeed, in life and at the gym!  


During an interview with clinical psychologist Guy Winch, we discussed a 4 step process for using failure intentionally as a way to succeed. As we spoke, I realized that this is the process I go through at the gym every week.  


You see, when we work out, the goal is to bring the muscle to failure.  The end of the set should be when your muscles literary fail and you can’t lift anymore. 


In the gym, it is all about recovering and repeating.  This is also true in life!


So here are Guy’s four steps to use failure as a way to succeed.

1. Define the goal.

Whether we are seeking a promotion, starting a new company, or becoming healthy, whatever the goal is, we have to define our goal! 

2. Taking action!  

This is where risks and courage become important.   At this stage we have to be willing to fail and muster up real courage to face the fear of failure. Like Pink asks in her song, ‘Glitter in the Air’;

“Have you ever looked fear in the face and said, I just don’t care?” 


3. Assessing our impact.

We should think of failure as part of the process; a critical component that will teach us what to do different. We need to become failure detectives in order to gain the knowledge we need to succeed.  


4. Repeating Our Efforts.

Now that we are armed with all our knowledge and have momentum, we go for it again.  

Success is something we learn through trial and error.    


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Join us today to learn about Tosca's moving story and how she uses fitness and many leadership attributes to pursue her vision through failure and adversity that would make most of us quit on our dreams.  

As you will find, Tosca is a true example of a Resilient Leader!  She follows her vision with a drive and determination that inspires us.

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Thank you for sharing everyone!!!

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Overcoming Fear and Creating the Leader You Want to Be!

Today’s show is all about using fitness to build confidence and overcoming our fears to create the leader we want to be. 


Rita Catolino, fitness expert, motivational speaker and entrepreneur, shares her inspirational story of transformation by using fitness to develop confidence, overcome her fears and become the leader she is today!

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We also cover the concept of looking fear in the face and telling it, I DONT CARE!  Check out this week's The Fitness Minute, connecting the dots of fitness and leadership in 60 seconds. More or less...  8-)


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Self-reflection can be painful, but, as they say, NO PAIN, NO GAIN!!!


Thanks for sharing everyone!  

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Helping the Bullied, the Bully and the Bystander

This week show's is all about developing the kind of healthy organization that is ready to support the bullied, the bully and the bystander.    

Leadership expert David Hain joined me to explore the topic of the bullying trap so many organizations fall into.  David recently joined an organization in the UK called Bullies Out and we discussed the how healthy organizations can provide support for the bullied, the bully and the bystander.  

This week I also share 3 Steps anyone can take to address bullying at the gym on The Fitness Minute, connecting the dots of leadership and fitness in 60 seconds, more or less...  8-)

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Strengths Based Leadership at Work, Home or at the Gym

This is my first #HealthyLeadership show and I want to start it by focusing on a topic that can truly enhance our ability our ability to lead at work, home or at the gym.  

Join us to explore the two biggest lessons about strengths and this week's Fitness Minute on the three steps outlined below!

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